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 Nov 6 2009, 05:21 PM
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I just joined the forum and was/am doing well. However, I got off the phone with my mom less than 1 hour ago and found out that my godmother just passed away this morning. I knew she was terminal, but I guess I was in denial not wanting to believe it. So, I would appreciate any suggestions to keep me on track as I know this is a time when I might just do nothing. Good thing is a did Kelly's mission while crying.
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Nov 6 2009, 05:36 PM
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i am SO sorry for your loss!!! (((((jagmom))))) i'm probably no help here, cuz i'd give you permission to grieve and be in touch with your heart right now and let the other stuff go for a bit......feel what you need to feel, cry if you feel like crying, and be very gentle with yourself. there's a big difference between taking the time to acknowledge our loss and sadness and using it as an EXCUSE........honor her memory and then HONOR yourself and take care of yourself and your home.
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Nov 6 2009, 05:54 PM
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Thank you Sarina
 You are right. I crying here, but I did swish & swipe with a headache... I sure don't want to be grieving right now. The irony is that when I found out about her passing I was baking apple pie and she was known as the best baker. She was 82 years old and honestly the person I wish everyone could have in their life, she made you feel that you were the most important person at that moment no matter if she just met you that day. She was a person who was there on every special occasion in my life. |
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Nov 6 2009, 06:13 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear you have lost this special lady. I know you must be very upset and it is good to let yourself have some time to feel sad and not think you have to carry on as normal. You say your godmother enjoyed baking and that makes me think maybe she was also someone who enjoyed taking care of her home. Maybe you can carry on with your flying knowing that is what she would want you to do. I think she would want you to learn to take care of your house so that you can come to enjoy it and be able to make things nice for family and friends as she did. I'm sure she would want you to take care of yourself and do things gently at your own pace also.
--------------------  Of course it must be that ugly beast called perfectionism that's trying to wriggle its way into our nests. Take a broom and chase it away. You can do that! Just take a good look at this signature and you know how to scare this little, nasty b*gg!r out of your house. Ariadne Kos |
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Nov 6 2009, 10:12 PM
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Lebanna- Thank you for your kind words which actually help alot
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Nov 7 2009, 12:34 AM
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I'm sorry for your loss, Jagmom.
Take the time you need to come to terms with it. Remember that Loving Yourself means doing what you need to do. Big Warm Hugs! -------------------- SUBLIMINAL CHALLENGE -- CONCENTRATE ON YOUR FLYING -- KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE PRIZE -- YOU! DON'T TELL YOURSELF WHAT YOU CAN'T DO! JUST START! Need some encouragement? You CAN do this! Believe it! TRY 15 MINUTES OF ANYTHING: The 15 Minutes of Anything Challenge START WITH ONE ROOM RESCUE TO GET YOU GOING: The Room Rescue Challenge VISIT THE NEW DECLUTTERING DIVAS THREAD Become a Decluttering Diva GET INTERESTED IN THE NO EXCUSES AND INTERVAL WORKOUTS: The NEWO/Interval Training thread |
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Nov 7 2009, 03:36 AM
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Sorry for your loss babe. I would suggest taking it easy for a week or so. Diminsh your Parade of Daily Adventures, stick to really basic routines (5 items or less for each) until you feel like you can emotionally handle more tasks, you don't want to overwhelm yourself when you're already stressed about the loss. Take it easy, seriously. Pamper yourself as well.
-------------------- 21. in a committed relationship of 4 years. one kitten named Uzi. i work part time as a cleaner (oh the irony!). have my associates in business, going back to school in january to get my bachelors. i volunteer once a week at a small no-kill free-roam cat shelter. in a all female rock band, in which i am the guitarist (playing since 2002). spiritually i am a wiccan/pagan. when i'm not working, flying or loving my friends and family i am usually found cuddled up on the couch reading a good book. found flylady in 2006. born again flybaby- (re)began october 22nd, 2009.
see me fly: fly baby litty's flutter trail |
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Nov 7 2009, 05:18 AM
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Im so sorry for your loss!
Take care of yourself in times like theese.. hugs. |
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Nov 7 2009, 10:22 AM
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You will be in my thoughts and prayers!
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Nov 7 2009, 11:17 AM
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THANK YOU! Just the opportunity to express myself was so invaluable. But, the response was awsome. All you ladies are great!
I am going to follow the suggestions. |
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Nov 9 2009, 09:57 AM
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Hi jagmom,
I'm sorry to hear about your godmother. My husband passed away in June. I can honestly say I don't know what I would have done without this forum. There are so many kind people here. You will find a lot of support. What helped me a lot was mostly sticking to my routines. It makes me feel like not everything is out of control. When I need to get more than that done, I come on here and read people's threads. It usually gets me moving to do something. Grieve when you need to, it doesn't do any good to hold it in. There are people on this forum 24 hours a day. You can always find someone to talk to. Make sure to pamper yourself, you deserve it. {{{Hugs}}} Katie -------------------- [font="Verdana"][/font][size="4"][/size][color="#9932CC"][/color]
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Nov 9 2009, 10:54 AM
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Katie- I am sorry for your loss. I value your input. I appreciate your concrete advice to sticking to routines which I am doing and it is working. Thank you for your words and time it took to reach out. It matters.
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Nov 9 2009, 07:21 PM
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Jagmon and Katie I am sorry for your losses.
I was also going to say perhaps it is better to stick to your routines? I think it depends upon how you personally handle things but I know that when I face stressful times I feel better to keep busy and keep on top of things. -------------------- Flybaby, mature student, aged 25, studying maths and sociology, living with other students, sharing a kitchen but I have my own bathroom.
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Nov 9 2009, 07:46 PM
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firepoppy- i think it has been great timing that i found these forums because they help me to keep busy in a positve way. baby step at a time.
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Nov 10 2009, 10:42 AM
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Hi jagmom,
Just stopping by to see how you are doing. {{{Hugs}}} -------------------- [font="Verdana"][/font][size="4"][/size][color="#9932CC"][/color]
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